Hummus

The Latin root of humiliations is hummus which means the earth/dirt. The abasement of honor and dignity and what accompanies that which is loss of status or standing.

Three types of listening are defined by Death Doula Kelly Ruby Hanson

Pure listening; no response, you sit in total awareness of what the other person is saying

Basic Listening; a back and forth and is often animated and used for small talk, used as a conversational warm up

Active Listening; this is mirroring with open ended questions, using body language and similar gestures to show you are present.

Hearing the places where the individual is feeling fragile or exposed The hummus, the grounding of conversation is where the death doula exists. To the core of the emotional support is validating the journey and the transition of dying.

Deep listening, providing permission to witness the unfolding of dialog from a neutral space, while guiding the circle of others present to do the same. A conduit for exchange like a mediator or a intermediary. A full expression of of the individual intentions, beliefs and practices without context. The hummus of the experience.