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Carve your way out

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honed like a rock to become a blade

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words cut like a knife

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like the shards of an icicle

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a gooseberry plant has long thorns, an obstacle for harvest

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Smart…. specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, timely

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Specific… let’s get detailed, so the lines are not blurred. the details matter, organizing your thoughts, determining what needs to be done and what can be let go of, giving away the tasks that other can do. A Death Doula is not a hospice worker, not skilled in vitals or medical interventions. Specifically, the role is emotional, organizational support services.

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Measurable; A logical sequence, a concept that is countable, perhaps a schedule, a spreadsheet or just a simple checklist. As a Death Doula, my specific service is to provide a measurable outcome, one that is quantifiable. Documenting the moral of their story, creating the event and celebration, the memory that fills the space upon departure. Your ever after is my prerogative, my passion, my purpose. A Death Doula is an interventionist, meeting each family members needs.

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Attainable; Ask yourself the question can you do this on you own or do you need some help? This is a tricky question, is it based in feelings or fact, when in reality it can be more complicated with assumptions of yourself. Might others have a different interpretation of the same situation? What is the worst case scenario, if it doesn’t get done. If you need a living will you hire a lawyer, if you need 24 hour care you hire hospice. When you need, emotional support you hire a therapist. A Death Doula takes on a role of recording memories, that will be treasured using modalities to create comfort for your ever after.

Realistic; Could my thoughts be an exaggeration of what is true? What is the projection, the timeline that you have set for yourself? Are you looking at the big picture or just what supports your own thoughts, perhaps you are just frozen with all of the complexities of the situation. Real is a measure of what can be done in a certain amount of time. Respite is realistic, managing your own life. Being resolute in what can be done and what can not be done in a certain amount of time. A Death Doula, has a high tolerance for confusion, chaos and emotional disruption.

Timely; This is a thought to be questioned; is this what is best for right now, this minute. Probably not… just a knee jerk reaction and emotional decision. A Death Doula has perspective, the big picture, a sequence or horizon. a tool box of therapeutic interventions that soothe and smooth what is sharp.

Perhaps this is new for you, or perhaps you knew it and needed to be reminded. If you find your self flustered, confused or simmering with rage, take a break, regain your mindful state. Walk you way to different path, one with less disruption… Your ever after

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